Life is made up of experiences we have and the conclusions we draw from them. Emotions are attached to these experiences, which over repetition become beliefs. If the meaning we have given these experiences is not grounded in what is true, then our behavior is driven by feelings based on false beliefs instead of what is true about ourselves.
We all will be wounded and we will wound others that are close to us. If there is a system in place of restoration then our spirits can experience healing. If there is not a system in place, or that system is not accessed, then there is no healing of the wounded spirit. Defense mechanisms develop to help us survive as we build walls of protection to keep out further wounding.


  1. Intrusive wounding – Wounds that are committed against you (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional abuse.
  2. Non-intrusive wounding – Wounds that are of omission such as neglect.
Emotional – love, acceptance, purpose or significance
Physical – food, nutrition
Spiritual – uniqueness, worship, know God, meaning of life
Psychological – purpose, significance, work
Mental – creative expression, vision
Belief System Check-in is the process that addresses the walls we build to protect us when wounded.

This restoration begins first with restoring our relationship and intimacy with God.  Start recovery where the presenting problem is. Sexual addiction penetrates down to our wounded spirit (core needs).

This restoration begins first with restoring our relationship and intimacy with God.
Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless – that our lives had become unmanageable.
    1. We must commit to step 1 100%.
    2. The lie from Satan resides in step 1. It must be completely exposed.
      Dirt – Things I have control over
      Seeds – wounding
      Trees – beliefs
      Fruit – behavior
    3. Cut the trees eliminate the fruit.
    4. Pull the roots eliminate the beliefs.


 Step 2 – Came to believe that Jesus Christ could restore us to sanity.
  1. Fill the chasm from pulled roots with healthy behaviors.


We start recovery where the presenting problem is. Addictions penetrate down to our wounded spirit (core needs).
  1. Detox (stop the addictive behaviors)
  2. Address disorders
  3. Expose barriers and/or compulsions
  4. Gain awareness
  5. Begin to shut/tear down barriers
  6. Address core needs Identifying False Beliefs
Ask yourself the following questions:
  1. What am I feeling?
  2. Why am I feeling this?
  3. What do I believe about myself?
  4. What is true?
  5. What do I need?
  6. How do I get my need met legitimately?
  1. Start and end day with God
  2. Utilize your men of grace (accountability)
  3. Spend time with family
  4. Spend time with spouse (if married)
Where you lack internal discipline you start with external discipline (rituals).